Getting ready to ask the most important question of your life? Congratulations! Asking for a hand in marriage is a big deal, and it takes a lot of courage. However, with so many factors to consider, you may easily get overwhelmed by all the necessary steps you need to take so that everything goes according to plan. Picking out the right timing, choosing the perfect ring, and preparing your speech in advance – all these things have to be well-thought-through in order to create a truly magical proposal. For all those hopeless romantics out there, here is the ultimate gentleman’s guide to planning a marriage proposal your partner will treasure forever.
Make it personal
Where and when you choose to propose is entirely up to you, but you need to make sure that it is something that she would want. Every partner is specific and wants different things, and your decision to marry implies that you know what your partner’s personal taste and preferences are. Asking for hand in a place where the two of you first met is sure to surprise your partner while popping a question while on a romantic weekend getaway is something many people dream of. Maybe your partner would like if you’d propose on a certain date, say, Valentine’s day and do it over a romantic dinner for two? Or maybe to have family and friends around to witness the event? Whichever choice you make, be sure that it is something she’d like. Make it personal, consider your partner’s wishes and taste, and most importantly – make sure everything is comfortable when you propose.
Put a ring on it!
After you’ve decided on the place where you intend to propose and figured out the right timing, the next step would be to get everything you need to make it go smoothly. Of course, no marriage proposal can go without some kind of symbol to show for it, right? Now, when browsing engagement rings, there are different factors to consider, such as your groom or bride-to-be’s personal style, your budget, and of course – the ring size. Think about the jewelry your fiancé usually wears, and don’t think too much about the price. All that matters is that the momentous piece of jewelry you choose truly symbolizes the love you feel for your partner and that it’s something you two will proudly show off.
Go down the traditional route
Before you head to the jeweler, you need to do what every gentleman would do before making a proposal – ask your partner’s parents for her hand in marriage. It may be the old-fashioned way, but it’s also a respectful thing to do, and if you’re a man of tradition, you know how much it means to have the blessing of your future in-laws. By asking for permission to marry their daughter or son, you’re making sure you’re all on the same page, and this polite gesture let their parents know that your intentions are sincere and shows that you are a true gentleman. It may not be an easy thing to do, but it’s definitely the right thing to do.
Shhh! – keep it to yourself
Now that you’ve asked for the hand in marriage and have your in-laws’ blessing, it’s important to keep things to yourself. Your partner knows that it’s coming, parents know it too, but they don’t know when exactly the proposal will take place, so you might as well keep them guessing. A gentleman never tells when or how they’re going to pop the question, so keep your lips sealed until the right moment comes. Of course, to plan this all out, you could ask one of your partner’s friends to help you plan and organize the whole event, but it has to be someone you trust enough to know they won’t let the cat out of the bag and ruin the surprise.
Make it a story worth telling
A romantic display this big requires thorough planning, and even though it’s important to have that little dose of spontaneity in your life, your marriage proposal is not the time for making any last-minute decisions. If you want to spend the next couple of days basking in engagement glow, be original, be creative, and take your time to figure out what your spouse-to-be would want a marriage proposal to look like. Of course, this implies the gentlemanly and timeless tradition of going down on bended knee and proposing – it really is a classic way to ask for permission and should be a part of every proposal regardless of the weather or setting. The two of you will remember this moment for the rest of your lives, so go all out, and make it a story worth telling!